Quote Originally Posted by denuseri View Post
Then I sugest you start your own thread thir. Mabey even your own webiste, dedicated just for "switches" so you can have the purity you desire with no open debate from any one else.

Why the sarcasm? I could see why she complained, if you weren't a moderator I'd have wondered why the moderators were letting someone come in and be so hostile. The point of having sub, Dom and switch fora is to let us discuss things with like-minded people: I wouldn't go to the Submissives' Couch and start dissing subs as a group. And in case you haven't looked, she already had started her own thread on this subject.
The purpose of this thread is to present some of the views I have heard come from others as well as some views I have observed about Switches from my personal experiences and initiate a diologue specifically for the purpose of Switch's and The other two primary groups to debate and discuss such conditions and behaviors that lead them to identify with one side , the other, or both.
Didn't Moonraker start this thread?
If you think I am being derogatory perhaps you shouldnt jump the gun and actually read my post, did you not read the part where I said I myself have even played both roles before?? Or the part about all of us in every part of our lives, both dom and sub, adjust the level of thier dominance or submissivness depending on thier relationship to thier surroundings and the perspective required us them at the time??
We both read it, and yes, given your experience it's hard to understand why your attitude seems so dismissive.
My main point being:

Since everyone "switches" to some degee in all manner of activities, why have a need for a third divison?
Since everyone has sexual feelings for either sex to some degree, why have the category "bisexual"? Since everyone is less than monogamous to some degree, why have the category "polyamorous"? Since everyone uses erotic restraint or pain-play to some degree, why have the category BDSM? Why bother with words at all?

From the other side, there are plenty of Doms and subs who want to have the category "switch" so they can make it perfectly clear they're not like that. Which suits us fine.

While I'm quoting, something you said a few posts back that baffled me:
4)alltough i must say and please dont take this the wrong way (this was explainned to me a long time ago by an old dominant and so far as ive seen it it pretty much rings true) He said:"allmost all of these ones that call them selfs "switches" are in fact actually just another type of submissive that also enjoys dominating those who will submit to them."
So far as I know, consensual Ds is all about dominating those who will submit.
, what that dominant ment when he told me that, in number 4 was that a "real dominant" in his opinion wouldnt let a "switch" dominante him,
Since this guy obviously defines a "real Dom" as one who does nothing else, such a one won't let anyone dom them, switch or whatever. So what?
basically in his old school view, you were eaither a dominant or you were not, balls to bones, so to speak, He said the "title" of switch was wholey unnessesary to begin with as all else that wasnt dominant was submissive by defualt to one degree or another
So all you're saying is that some Doms don't believe that switches exist, which we already knew. By definition, that excludes them from a discussion of how switches feel.