Blythe, I think many women grow up not really knowing what real female 'bits' look like. They're not that much on display (compared to penises) so it's hard to compare your own with other women's and decide whether what you've got is 'normal' or not. The ones you can see relatively easily are porn star/airbrushed/surgical affairs of an impossibly 'neat' standard.
Once you've seen photos of real, ordinary women's 'bits' (I saw a brave documentary once I've never forgotten) you will be very heartened. They come in all shapes and sizes, in/out, shake it all about, and they're all gorgeous!