I suppose the first rule when you enter the world of kink is 'don't judge', but I still find it odd indeed to be a practicing member of 'the lifestyle' and to hear vanilla colleagues comment or make jokes about some BDSM gossip that's crept into the news. I never say anything but I think to myself with wonder, 'I totally understand it. I'm on the side of Max Mosley!' And then I think, 'My God, what would they say about me if they knew what I get up to?' as they mock away, getting off on the hot sex but completely failing to understand the dynamics.

I am always very amused to read non BDSM psychological views on the subject, especially the ones that imply there's a terrible problem with us. They just don't get it!