Establishing hard limits is somthing esential, especially for us, our trust was once broken or shattered by others and the dominant that wants us to be thier's and trust and thrive under thier dominion has a lot of ground to re-cover.

You simply can't "push" one of us through these things, it takes a lot of time and patience to coax us forth.

It first of all has to be somthing that we initiate in many cases, which is extra trying for a dominant to understand.

Some questions for all of us:

Does your dominant know about what happened to you?

Are they part of or included in your recovery stratagies?

Do they go to therapy with you?

Are they going online here and trying to find out how to help you?

Secondary Survivors (partners and supporters of Survivors) are more than welcome and encouraged to participate as well,

I know my Owner has been an interagal part of every step of my own recovery.