Quote Originally Posted by openlyrefined View Post
Hai!
I'm new to this site & have been reading a lot of the threads here & (being a total humiliation whore) am looking for new ideas.

Master is a new Dom, so the extreme public participatory humiliations are not feesible at this time (for those interested try publicdisgrace dot com)

There are the basic groping in public, visible collar/cuffs & verbal humiliations ideas, but what are some others?

I am looking for creative suggestions that could humiliate me & not him. The problem is that for me to be humiliated I need the public reaction. But as he will be with me & I am a reflection of him & his needs I dont want him to be humiliated too.

any suggestions?

thanks so much!!
~ openlyrefined

Hi! Well, I am an extreme humiliation slut too AND it takes a lot to humiliate me so we go to some pretty extreme measures and play some hard core games in order to acheive that for us. I very much understand the need for public reaction, as I too need that. What we do (and I'm not suggesting this for a new couple, new to bdsm, btw... I just thought that you could tame these ideas down a few thousand notches lol)- anyway, what we do is cucking. He openly and brazenly cheats on me both in front of me and away from me and sometimes even purposefully deceptively (lying to me about where he's headed out to when he's going out to fuck another girl, for instance). However, just that isn't enough for me... I need the more public reaction so, within our neighborhood, to our friends, and at stores that we frequent; he has made sure that the cucking is not only common knowledge, but also makes it clear to people when he talks about it how much I love it. He also keeps most of his sexual encounters to within a couple blocks of home, and the above mentioned store clerks. The bottom line is that he is working at weaving a net around me of all these women he has fucked, so that I can't step out to check the mail without knowing that the people who see me are very likely to know about what we do... and that I get off on it. In fact, at this very moment, he is 2 houses down fucking the very attractive woman who lives on the 1st floor. So basically, not only am I humiliated by the cucking because of the general public view of it as being constantly cheated on; I am also humiliated by the fact that everyone around here knows that I'm getting off on him doing this to me- in other words... he's publically outing me to the general nilla community around us. Now... how can this be applied to your situation, I genuinely have no clue... that depends on how far you are willing to go for your kink needs, and exactly what your humiliation needs entail. For some being led around a 24/7 Walmart in the middle of the night on a leash is humiliating. For me, knowing that everyone who sees me knows my "secret" is humiliating. Additionally, knowing that I am not enough to satisfy him can be humiliating. I mean, on a logical level... no woman could. My sex drive is through the roof and we play constantly, but I can't wave a magic wand and be dozens of different looking, new women. That is what he needs. We have found a solution for both of our deepest needs in a creative way. However, we are very fortunate to be that in our life, we can pull this off with no negative side effects. Anyway, that's my 822 cents lol.