Thanks for the warm welcome folks, good to know that one doesn't have to be "hardcore" to be part of the community, it so often is with, for example, sporting type forums. I've just finished reading an e-book by someone called Argus, so my view of my situation as "mild" is based somewhat on that. I've also read quite a few of the output from www.bdsmartwork.com/home.htm which are pretty "full on" too.
My personal philosophy, in this and other areas of life, is: "Remember. it's meant to be fun"