That's kickin' Shaya, and an incredibly sweet summary. You sound incredibly happy, and I'm glad of it.

Perceptive Dominants who take the time to get to know their human playthings, know how to read our emotions, and learn to anticipate our actions and needs are the best in my humble opinion. Sure, hyper-cruelty offset by fierce compassion utilized by one who knows how and when to wield each is nice, but I don't want someone who will just tun me black and blue then cuddle. I want someone who will manipulate my thought processes... who will turn my emotions inside out to get what they want... who takes the power I give them, acknowledges it, and uses it to shape a world where they can inspire fear, anger, shame, devotion, and a range of other things with a simple expression, command, or hand gesture.

Does such desire make a slave or submissive? I suppose that depends on how you define each.