Some questions to ask a Dom...hmmmm.

Okay, I'll give this a shot.

1. What other relationships are you currently involved in, and to what extent?
2. What is it you are looking for from me?
3. Why me? (Pay close attention to this answer. I just recently realized that a Dom I was spending time with only saw me as a 'challenge' - and he verbalized that in our negotiation and I didn't listen closely enough to understand that that's ALL I WAS to him.)
4. Tell me about some of your previous BDSM experiences. One good one and one bad one.
5. Give me the names of two references who know you well. This doesn't have to be 'kinky people' - some folks are very private and don't play in public and aren't involved in 'the scene'.

That's all I can think of. So much of it is instinct. Listen to your gut. Watch body language. Hear what the Dom/me is saying, really. (Not just that lovely voice that's making you all wet. )

And have fun. It's supposed to be fun, after all.