I'm just going to jump on into this one because my hands are not dirty enough with debate tonight.

I think there are two different things being discussed here. I may be wrong but ya never know.

It sounds like Zarine13 is talking about a rapist. Someone who is specifically looking to rape women and who has a history of doing so. I agree that I don't see someone with that intent looking for his next victim on a board that has people who willingly want to play the victim or who would give up control voluntarily.

What thrall is bringing up is rape (I'm not saying that it isn't) but it's an unplanned situational rape.

I've debated on rather or not to use a real life example and decided to go with it so excuse the length of this.

One night I called my best friend up after a hard week of work. My boyfriend at the time was sleeping and I didn't want to wake him. My friend and i went out and had a few...million drinks. My friend said he couldn't drive so we got a hotel room. Now what happened after that was by all means rape. One thing led to another and the end result was me being found by my online bank statements and of course the cops having to come out. There was a very dramatic scene with my boyfriend and that was that.

Now my friend had plenty of opportunities to do a number of things to me at any time. Like when i was drugged out of my mind for wisdom teeth removal. Or when he was dragging me out of a club and sleeping in his car. Why that time? Well he got the wrong idea. We were drunk. I hadn't properly explained why my boyfriend wasn't with us and i had admitted some rape fantasies to him (which i knew he shared).

Do I think he's a danger to anyone? No.

Do I think he needs to tell people about this? No.

He's not a rapist. He did engage in a one time situational rape. I'm not saying that everyone who does this should be let off the hook. I'm saying that I did drop all charges and I did make sure my boyfriend couldn't find him.

So I think that in order to speak about this we need to define what we are talking about because someone who answers yes that they have engaged in situational rape isn't a definitive "never talk to" and someone who says they haven't could easily be lying. At some point everyone takes things a bit to far. Sometimes that's how we learn.