Fetishdj, I always love your posts and find them to be very wise. In this case, I wonder what exactly you would talk with her about? It might be better to have some sense of what you are concerned about and where you fall if a choice needs to be made - would you choose the friendship over the D/s, or vice versa? I'm not saying a choice needs to be made, but as you say, it might come to that and before you start asking questions you need to be sure that you are ready to hear the answers.

It's possible that the situation just has you agitated, and there's a natural inclination to rush to have certainty, any certainty, rather than put up with uncertainty. I think this inclination is best resisted. This is not IMHO, but in my experience.