when vanilla people try to talk about kink

[AdrianaAurora]

Except to friends that we were already in the Lifestyle, we haven't told anyone. Though I sure felt like it sometimes, .

I sometimes like to shock people, so it was on the table in the beginning, but by pure luck we haven't gotten around to it. When my Husbands ex wife died, her parents fought us for custody - their case was slim, and we won, but if this had come out, there is no doubt in my mind that their chance would have risen by as much as 50%. And considering our chosen careers (mine more so than His) - it just isn't worth it.

Do I feel angry about it? Not really angry (though we should, because it is a discrimination of sorts), but I can just imagine the reaction I would get on Mommy blogs if I raised some points based on living in a bdsm household. *eg*

One of our kid's friends Mom, not so long ago asked me about "the locked room", I almost told her, but I am pretty sure she was of the type. Instead I said that that is where we keep my Husbands antique gun collection.

The moral: guns - good, sex - bad. C'est la vie.

[leah06]

But what I really wanted to ask is...does anyone else ever gets exasperated and angry with this whole need for secrecy? I mean it is not like I want to tell all and sundry, and this isn't all I am, but it is a very big part of me.

When my Husbands ex wife died, her parents fought us for custody - their case was slim, and we won, but if this had come out, there is no doubt in my mind that their chance would have risen by as much as 50%. And considering our chosen careers (mine more so than His) - it just isn't worth it.

One of our kid's friends Mom, not so long ago asked me about "the locked room", I almost told her, but I am pretty sure she was of the type. Instead I said that that is where we keep my Husbands antique gun collection.

The moral: guns - good, sex - bad. C'est la vie.

Maybe it's different for those of us with kids. I can't begin to imagine discussing this even in passing, even in the same kind of broad details my friends use to regale me with tales of their sex lives. So I let it go. Sometimes it's fun to answer their questions totally truthfully, but completely blandly, and to know that there's just a lot more to the story than they're hearing. You can slip in a double entendre, too. So, you know, sometimes I crack myself up, but that's about it.

Yes, AdrianaAurora, four-legs good, two-legs bad.

[satisfied]

Maybe it's different for those of us with kids.

Nope. Not me. I have kids and I still will answer anything. Everyone who knows me in RL is very aware that you do not ask me a question unless you are prepared to hear the truth. I do not take any of the responsibility if my friends are traumatized by our conversations. They have all been warned before hand. Maybe becoming my friend should come with a little disclaimer........WARNING: Do not talk to me unless you are prepared to hear the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!

Q. Does this shirt and skirt go together?
A. Absolutely not. Go change.( What? I'm supposed to let them go out in public like that? That's not a very good friend thing to do.)

Q. I've heard that anal sex hurts very very bad so i'd never be willing to try it.
A. Well, as a matter of fact................

LMAO. My sister still doesn't want to try it, but at least she's well informed now!

I do however put a filter on it when older people or minors are around. The only exception to that is if the older person actually wants to know.

I know, i know....i'm a fruitcake. i've heard it before.