Hugs Nightwidow,
I honestly believe a submissive with a strong personality, a deep knowing of their worth and ability, can find the true wholeness that submitting can bring. I chuckle inside when people feel they have me figured out. The 24/7 peace I feel inside from being Master_Rob's submissive would seem to most completely contradictory to the strong, strong-willed, "dominant" person I am in "daily" life. I find whether it is the complete submission I give my Sarge, or simple respect, honor, good-will I give to co-workers, friends and strangers, is something given only because it is earned. I do not "owe" anyone anything other than common decency. I've walked away from meeting several "Doms", managers and administrators rolling my eyes thinking hmmmm poor saps, they seem to think they deserve my respect and they would and will never get it based on their own actions. Equally I have found people in service, people at a lower level on the job ladder gain unending respect and a my willingness to go above and beyond for them, as they treat me with respect and a genuine belief that we all have something to offer. A title does not make someone something they are not.

I have a true belief that you can and will find that person to not only be worthy of your submission, but someone who allows you to trust and respect to a level that you can truly be lost in the wholeness it brings to your soul. You do not have to give up who you are to be submissive, it is who you are.

hugs!