Who am I?

[Ozme52]

I am not sure what I am. I have a dominant personality but I want to be submissive I just don't know how. I'm searching for someone who can show me what submission is truly about. I gave all of myself to my ex and got nothing in return. How do I find out who I am?

I understand how you feel and often wonder if I'm the only one. Apparently not :-) I wonder how many others feel as we do? Perhaps we should start our own little section of the forum to support those of us finding it difficult to learn to submit in spite of our desire to.

I usually take a look at profiles before answering questions like these... but they're not available right now... so my answer is given somewhat in the dark.

Many dominant types find relief in giving control to another. Dominant in one role, submissive in another. There is no "correct" orientation. We go where we need to be.

Finding which role is right for you depends a lot on finding a correct and compatible partner. The search for such a partner can be difficult, but keep your eyes open, because he/she may be closer than you think, or may show up from an enexpected encounter.

There are many ways to begin your exploration into submission, so I will point out the following as an excellent approach, imo.

To me submission is not 'giving up my will'. It is 'aligning my will with the will of my Dom'. In other words, what He wants, I then want. What He needs, I then need to provide. I merge my will with His.

Pay heed, jeanne understands... this is a big factor toward succeeding with many dominants. Well... it certainly works for me.