Quote Originally Posted by Pearlgem View Post
But I think you just did, cadence. Surely a great many subs who 'want to please will do things they wouldn't normally do'? Why do you assume that must be 'idiotic', 'stupid' and 'harmful'? It may be, but must it be? You will not be the only one who takes these sorts of risks carefully, I'm sure. I most certainly am driven to go beyond the bounds of what I would choose if I could (romantically?) choose my own domination, but thank goodness it's in the hands of another whom I trust to take me beyond myself but not to fundamentally harm me. I read of practices on here every day that are just not for me but I have learned not to react with disgust or horror - I just shut up, it's not my kink.
You're right, that is a hypocritcal way to say something, and a bit too blunt. But I am referring to those submissives who blindly do whatever it is they are told. They blindly believe thier Dominant won't harm them because they feel because they are submissive and the other is Dominant that things will be fine.
I wasn't refering to pushing a limit or boundry that is scary but doable.

I myself am guilty of attempting things that I was asked to do, that could have had potential dangers, and yes I would declare that as stupid. I am fully accountable for myself really and I won't actually do something that I know is not for me, I won't do it because he said so and he wants it.

It's okay to state the safe, sane and consenual ways to do things, and to advise others that some things we do can do permanent damage.
I find that there are some submissives who clearly think that because the Dominant said it was okay, that it will be okay.
A submissive should do something because they consent to try it, not because someone else told them to.