i have been sexually abused pretty much most of my life in one way or another and all at diff times. i love my Master, my husband. I give him complete control over me and i love it. I have given up everything to him, but i am still me. i am still the same stubborn ass hard headed fighting little spirit thing imaginable. i dont think it is a question of completely giving urself up and maybe losing urself, more a question of what else do i want to do with this person? bcuz there are many things that we all have to try and find our place in. i love being the sub to my Master and we are always finding more things to do and more ways of finding that one thing that really gets the other going.