keep your mind to yourself!

[Matin]

If it wasn't sane and particularly if it wasn't consensual, it was NOT a D/s relationship. It was abuse, plain and simple. And possibly criminal.

*sigh* i know. to have someone so under thumb that they lose their sense of self, somewhat...

it wasn't D/s, we know that, i just want to know if anyone else has thought about how it can contain similar elements, just in a context of trust and love. and whether anyone else has found that codependency was ever a problem as they begin practising elements of D/s in everyday life.

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*sigh* i know. to have someone so under thumb that they lose their sense of self, somewhat...

it wasn't D/s, we know that, i just want to know if anyone else has thought about how it can contain similar elements, just in a context of trust and love. and whether anyone else has found that codependency was ever a problem as they begin practising elements of D/s in everyday life.

I think it is simply a matter of helping to rebuild her trust. Start slowly, and give her lots of latitude.