Quote Originally Posted by wonderworld View Post
MY OPINION ONLY!!

Ive read several theories on this. One that stuck with me (and helped me sleep better at night) is that certain people are wired as subs from birth. We are born like this. And thus, sadly, make easy targets as children and also adults. Thus explaining the possible higher rate of abuse. The traits that make us up- attention seeking, people pleasing, passive, etc, also make us easier prey from day 1. So.. we are not here necessarily because we were abused, we were chosen for abuse because of who (and how) we were.

We are not messed up, but unfortunately others in the world are.

Just my 2 cents. -WW
Thanks, that comment makes me feel a whole lot better. To know that quite possibly abuse in the past (whether it be childhood or not) has probably no impact on the way that we actually are. I was hoping to hear that from someone. Myself, I have been abused at 13. Though it is a situation that I do not wish to talk about, just had to make this comment for wonderworld.