Quote Originally Posted by fetishdj View Post
What it largely means from a real world PoV is that it is possible to change your traits through influencing your own environment and taking control (or letting someone else you trust take control of you). So, some who have had events in thier childhood that include abuse can go one of two ways - they either become more dominant as they try to take control of their own life, sometimes in later life striking back at their abusers in some way in order to achieve closure, or they can become more submissive. The latter often 'take control' by finding someone they trust to control their lives and therefore find formal submission. Of course, there are also those who bock out the abuse and therefore may not be affected by it so much unless they are somehow reminded of it and others who may respond in a totally different way.

i agree with you. unfortunatly i was one of the once that blocked it out. usealy it doesnt bother me that much. but found my triggers the hard way. i got realy bad flash backs. and am still having them.

i do believe that people are wired from birth. at least i know i am. but that didnt have anything to do with why and how i was raped.
there are only 2 things it will do to you and that is it will either destroy you. or it will make you stronger.

i'm sorry if it sounds harsh but thats my opnion