There is now quite a lot you can do in a long distance BDSM relationship that was previously difficult or even impossible. First, however, a warning - a LD relationship like this can be frustrating as it is never as 'real' as face to face sessions can be. Just be warned and do not expect much...

First thing, you can take the relationship beyond just being 'online' and into a true LD relationship. Use the phone, for example. If she has a mobile and you have the number then use it to make sure she is aware that you are always there, not just when she logs into her computer. A simple text message can remind her you are still there and in control. If she does not have a mobile (or has one she does not wish to 'play' on such as a work bought one) and you have the resources, send her a cheap pay as you go one. She does not need to add credit to it as it only needs to recieve your calls. This can be a phone only for the two of you to use.

I assume you are already sending her tasks by e-mail. If not then this is another line of communication to exploit. Again, be mindful of work and family (i.e small children in the house) but you can send her quite explicit mails with some tasks in to be completed by a set deadline. If she only has a work mail do not use that (so many risks of being caught by even the most rudimentary audits of the e-mail system). Get her to set up a webmail address (most of them are free - gmail, yahoo etc).

The idea of the above two points is to make sure that she has the feeling that you are not thousands of miles away, sat at a computer, but right there next to her, viewing and controlling her life. Having been in a situation where an LD Domme had my mobile phone and e-mail address I have to say that it is quite a powerful feeling of being owned, knowing that the next text message or phone call could be her with some instructions.

I would also have her set up a blog of some form where she can record her feelings about tasks. INstruct her to update this regularly - either after each session or once a week (or both) with reflections on her thoughts and feelings about tasks you set her. This can either be public or set to private (so only you and her can read it) and you need to make sure that she knows she can be honest in this - even if she thinks it may hurt your feelings or whatever. And there should be no punishment for honesty. You use this blog to adjust your domination of her. If she hated something, use it only as punishment (if at all). If she liked something, use it more often and so on.

I would also, between the two of you. do some research into self bondage techniques. These can be quite useful to use during web sessions. There are a lot of sites out there with ideas - some easy, some complicated, some safe, some less safe, some downright dangerous. Start with small experiments and see what works.

A webcam linked to a messenger system is a good investment, especially if you have it set to a VOIP set up (where you can speak to her over the internet rather than just typing). The VOIP makes a massive difference because a) she can hear your voice and there is so much more you can do with tone and inflection than mere typing can achieve b) you can hear her voice and therefore hear those nice little whimpers and screams which makes the whole process more rewarding for you as a Dom c) she does not have to type. This is important as I know how frustrating it is to have to have hands free enough to type and having to lean over the keyboard while tied, dripping hot wax and covered in clothespegs in order to 'speak' to my Domme. I'd also go the extra money to get a webcam that can be remote operated - usually by a remote control. This means the sub can switch views on the cam a lot easier as they don't have to go up to the camera and move it around manually. The ideal would be a cam controlled by you, from your computer, but I am not sure if such is available.

I would also suggest setting her cam somewhere far back from where she is and high up, pointing down so you can see a lot more of her than just her head.

Things you can get her to do:

- clothespegs on parts of the body (need I say which parts?)
- hot wax on parts of the body
- tying legs to chair legs or together (it is difficult to tie arms, for obvious reasons)
- things like gags and hoods can easily be used
- doing a striptease/perform a sex show with a dildo/vibe for you
- she can whip/beat herself on various parts of her body

You can also control various aspects of her life, if you so choose. You can tell her what she is to wear, what she is to eat and other things. There is a program (Cybermistress which was orginally designed for male subs but recently has acquired a female sub aspect) that allows you to set certain parameters and rules for behaviour. She runs this on her computer and it requires her to log every time she wants to do something that you control and gives a percent chance of being allowed to break the rule (determined by you). You write the script the program follows and you recieve the e-mailed logs from the program which tell you when she broke rules and what punishments the program randomly determined.

Hope this all helps...