hmmm the first thing? I think just getting tied up but that seemed somewhat insignifigant to me what really made me start looking around at this world was having this vanilla boyfriend where foreplay consisted of wrastling but eventually elevated to beating the snot out of each other (sometimes too far -black eyes, red faces-i once accidentally broke his nose :| poor guy lol) we had a lot of fun with it and he liked that i faught with him so hard as he usually had an easy time over powering women(though he said they never got to sexual play just tickling and stuff)