Quote Originally Posted by erish View Post
i'm looking for advice and help from anyone with more experience than me here (which is probably almost everyone). i've never done any kind of anal play - not butt plugs, not beads, nothing in my asshole at all.
It appears I may not have followed the normal route to anal sex. Why should that be different from anything else??

I've never used butt plugs or anal beads or even lube (other than what is, um, naturally available). There was no preparation or advanced warning before the guy who dragged me into this world stuck his finger in my ass the very first time we had sex. It was a new experience, and quite a shock to say the least.

After that introduction, he told me repeatedly he was going to fuck my ass, reminding me that it was going to happen but never telling me when. One day, with no notice beyond those vague statements, it did. He was not particularly harsh, nor was he very gentle. Yes, it hurt. But not as bad as I'd been worried it would. And the pain faded away fairly quickly, leaving behind waves of overwhelming sensation.

So while my introduction to anal sex wasn't the orthodox, gradual, progression of plugs and stretching, I can't really complain about the end result. Hopefully it will work out similarly for you!!