It wasnt my intention to anger anyone, but I understand why that is....from our early age we have been conditioned to search for something uncatchable. Most people spend their entire lives trying to fill their emptiness with Imitation Love, but all they achieve is an ever-deepening frustration, punctuated by brief moments of superficial satisfaction.

We all want to feel loved. The lack of unconditional love is the cause of most of our anger and confusion. We think about it, hope for it, fantasize about it, go to great lengths to achieve it, and feel that our lives are incomplete without it. As a result people pretend it does exist, that they are the lucky ones who caught it and if only I could find it I would believe it too. Right, . It is not so much about lying to others as it is to ourselves. Where do you think “The wife is always the last to know,“ comes from?

Why cant we admit what relationships are really like instead of all this pretending? Men drive me crazy because they have been trained that that is what women want so they talk nonsense. They cant grasp that I want reality and not "pretend utopia". I have learned that the day the man tells you he loves you is the day he starts lying to you...not because they are bad, but because they feel they can no longer be honest with you.

What is wrong with passion and lust and partnership? What is wrong with admiting who we are and what our needs are instead of playing these games? Why cant we honestly just say "I care about you (a lot)," instead we have to build it up into something it is not. Because that is not how we were raised, thats why.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails. —I Corinthians

This piece of poetry describes the exact characteristics of "real love". When was the last time you met someone who feels like that? The problem is actually with trying to search “Love” in our daily lives...what we should be looking for is Compatibility.

What we confuse for love today are (at best cases) Lust, Infatuation, Affection, Fondness. And there is nothing wrong with that. However the difference between those and "love" is selflessness and permanence. Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves....and I have yet to see that.