Love vs. Love

[lily27]

Getting back to jeanne's original question, I think there is a fourth (third? lol) "type". I love, because I love.

I was just thinking about Master and trying to fit him into one of the catergories, but I can't. I love him because I love him. The end.

I could give you a list of things that I love about him, but that wouldn't explain WHY I love him. (I could also give you a list of things that drive me nuts, but that is neither here nor there....) I love him just because I do.

If you expand your definition of love beyond the romanitic type (and assuming that you do in fact believe in love) and ask yourself why you love your parents? Your siblings? You children? It is probably not something you can explain. You just love them.

I love Master.
I love my family.
I love my friends.
I love my child more than life itself.
I love Candy Cane Chocolate Fudge Crackle ice cream.

Why does it have to be any more complicated than that?




[I have had a couple of glasses of wine this evening.... apologies if this post makes no sense at all.]

[damyanti]

Why does it have to be any more complicated than that?

The smart ass answer would be because I have to question everything, LOL.

But that is just it...if its Love it shouldnt be complicated. If you have to question, if there is constantly high drama, if you do things that you know will hurt another person, if you go from one relationship to another - it is not Love. If you are on again off again on again...it doesnt strike me as love.

I seriously doubt that anyone loves anyone (and this goes for more than just romantic love). We do right by them, we spend time together, we bond, we stay together out of choice. We care...

...We settle...and call it love.

When we meet someone with whom we click, we are overwhelmed with hormones, we become completely crazy about the other person. It is almost like an addiction. Amber does pose a very good question...why is this less? Because it doesnt last. Because its flimsy. Because its addictive and because a lot of people go from one relationship to another trying to capture that feeling because they think its love.

If people do stay together after that it is out of habit, because its convenient, because its monetary sound policy, because they have been together for a long time and their lives are too entwined. Because they are afraid to be alone. And in lucky cases there is still affection.

People are social creatures, we have urges/needs to bond. It has been that way since the beginning of time. Why is that less worthy than "Love"? Romantic love as a relationship foundation is a rather new concept.

Today is also common to hear "I love you" when someone is merely in lust after you and they simply decide you tick all the right boxes of what they want. In fact this is the most common example. What grates me is the dishonesty of it. People cheat or do other hurtful things but thats ok because they "love" their partner.

Perhaps I am in the wrong and you are right that this is Love. But as I said in the post above you are welcome to it. It involves too much drama, too many lies, its too exhausting...because when you come crashing back to reality hurt of what you didnt find is all too real. And unlike the popular saying I dont believe that pain is love....he/she is just not that into you (and they probably never were).