Where to start.... I was married for some years. Everyday same thing I would go to work come home, have my wife bitch at me for something (dont remember anymore) I always tried to be the Dominant in the house but my vanilla side and I guess my upbringing stopped me from pursuing what I was feeling. Finally about 3 or 4 yrs ago I was surfing the web and stumbled onto a BDSM site. I started to read and read and read... Something in me new that what I was reading explained my thoughts and desires. Long story short my wife and I separated and I started to research what was around me locally. I found a local Munch that I got to know people from. I unfortunately started to travel a lot for work so I started using online communities to talk to like minded individuals.