I don't often do this, but:

Finding someone real is like prospecting for gold; you may get lucky 1st time out, or you may have to sift a lot of gravel before you find your nugget. good luck in the seach; make haste slowly. Use your commn sense and learn and Use safetynets (including buried safecodes). Ask questions; the only 'dumb' questions are those unasked. Knowledge is power, and in this, can be difference between safety and serious damage. Finally, don't be afraid to say no, if what you are asked to do seems stupid, illegal, or dangerous; being submissive does not mean check your brain at the door with your clothes. If the supposed 'Sir' wants a doormat, tell him he can find one for a buck-99 at wally-world. And if all he wants is use of your holes, tell him to buy a blowup doll; they even have holes that vibrate. Unless he is interested in the you between your ears as well as between your legs, it is hard to build a lasting bond.
And on that, lecture is over...lol. If you have questions, this is a good site to ask; the folk are friendly, and well informed as a rule. it is a journey of self-discovery; bon voyage.
Quoted for truth.

Just don't let anyone brow-beat you. There s no One True Way for BDSM, just what does or does not work for you. Anyone who demands you do something your uncomfortable with is not worth talking to, let alone playig with.

I would suggest that, in addition to LMK's post above, that you insist on geting to know any prospective dom/me you meet for at minimum a week, more if you need it, just one a mundane, no-sex/BDSM basis. Anyone who is worth your time and attention will be willing to do that at least

The best way to meet people here, though, is to join the chat (when it's working, heh) and see how they get along with others and what their personality is like.