Regarding the glass half full/half empty discussion, my view is "you see the glass half full, I see it's time for another, Hey waiter!"

As for people randomly contacting you and giving instructions, the only person you should ever follow any kind of instructions from (well, other than the laws of where you live and rules of whatever building you are in/forum you are on, obviously :P) would be your future master.

I've found that some people try and claim themselves as a master and so use that title to demand respect from those who wish to be submissive and thus try forcing them to do what they demand. All this of course does is run true submissives away from their true calling, and harm those who really don't know what they're doing. All the while giving those of us with common sense a bad name.

I'm always of the view that I give everyone respect until they show that they are undeserving of it. Even a sub who wishes to be used, abused, humiliated and generally treated as worthless, I will respect fully because it was her choice to put herself in that position and it is her choice to no longer accept it if that is her wish. Anyone making demands of someone without properly opening a discussion and getting to know you as a person and an individual first has already shown you nothing but disrespect and deserves nothing but the same in return.

I do of course hope that this mystery person does return as it would sound like you would ideally want him to come back so you can have your... bopportunity .