help a girl out?

[anxious girly]

what was your situation curious? how did it happen? same as me? got ya all hot and bothered, then, poof?

[pranadevil]

Regarding the glass half full/half empty discussion, my view is "you see the glass half full, I see it's time for another, Hey waiter!"

As for people randomly contacting you and giving instructions, the only person you should ever follow any kind of instructions from (well, other than the laws of where you live and rules of whatever building you are in/forum you are on, obviously :P) would be your future master.

I've found that some people try and claim themselves as a master and so use that title to demand respect from those who wish to be submissive and thus try forcing them to do what they demand. All this of course does is run true submissives away from their true calling, and harm those who really don't know what they're doing. All the while giving those of us with common sense a bad name.

I'm always of the view that I give everyone respect until they show that they are undeserving of it. Even a sub who wishes to be used, abused, humiliated and generally treated as worthless, I will respect fully because it was her choice to put herself in that position and it is her choice to no longer accept it if that is her wish. Anyone making demands of someone without properly opening a discussion and getting to know you as a person and an individual first has already shown you nothing but disrespect and deserves nothing but the same in return.

I do of course hope that this mystery person does return as it would sound like you would ideally want him to come back so you can have your... bopportunity .

[brwneydgirl]

you might be a little disappointed if you are hoping to meet someone in person on this site

I have to disagree with you wholeheartedly on this point, TheSeeker. I've met a few folks and they've been nothing but a pure pleasure.

Good luck, girly.

[pranadevil]

they've been nothing but a pure pleasure.

See, that's where you're going wrong, it's the non-pure types on this site you should be looking for .

[brwneydgirl]

See, that's where you're going wrong, it's the non-pure types on this site you should be looking for .

Who said I was going wrong??

And besides, aren't we all just as pure as the driven snow?

[hippie chick]

While I'm still pretty new to the site (I'm a recent reincarnate), I have had some really good conversations with a lot of the people around here. Chat is fun and you never know what conversation might occur.

As far as exploring / learning about your submissive side, online is a very simple solution. Talking about sexuality is the best way to learn about it. Once you get the mental juices flowing, well.....the physical ones will flow too.

[agog ab]

i have also met people from this site, and have several people i consider friends, online and R/L from this site. It takes the same consideration and common sense as anything else. Good luck!

[TheSeeker]

i have also met people from this site, and have several people i consider friends, online and R/L from this site. It takes the same consideration and common sense as anything else. Good luck!

common sense is unfortunately not all that common

[sabrisadist]

Sometimes (just in may case), real life is cruel. I was into BDSM for years but as feeling interest and as a "gee I wish, I can find someone real for this". I found someone for BDSM partner in real first time, but several years after I married (my wife goes just vanilla). Now I have a discreet life between vanilla and BDSM, I have to play MBA (Married but Available), and now I have to deal with the guiltiness sense, I got used to it. I love my wife, but I love BDSM too.

I mentioned about my story because I believe, in your case, your situation is better than mine and you will likely have more bopportunity :-) there in US. I think, men are less conservative in BDSM and people there is more open minded (as far as I know).

[sabrisadist]

Additionally I have no hope to find somebody else from this site as a real partner because I guess the closest person here is thousands miles away from my location.

I mean I have all the empty part of the glass, remaining are full for you :-) Please be optimistic.

[Dark_Perversion]

Greetings

I came across your posting "help a girl out". I would be pleased if you would read my profile and especially my "D_P Greetings 12 03 08". Perhaps then you may be inclined to send me an email. I would also advise that your first "don't" would be to discount an older aged dominant male. You will learn at some point that age should not get in the way.