how many subs

[Miner]

you all make excellent points, I could have posted a thank you on each response
I have put myself in a dilemma, I have come to know 2 subs very closely
if I were put in a situation of selecting one over the other I am not sure I could do it
yet I would hate to lose either of them

Presumably you have told the two subs about each other as well? You're on a hiding for grief if you aren't up-front with both of them.

[FirstBorn]

Well you cant argue with the stud factor af having a couple of subs.

Still if thats all it is, stuffing for an ego.

Well I have met doms like that, come to think of it they probably where mostely doms in the first place to boost their ego.

Now im not saying that anyone here is like that. But relationships that are all about the dom, really only belong online. Even there they should only exist on an informed consensual basis.

Worst possible thing you can do to a sub is everything they dream of. Because theyll dream up more and now that they did it all, theyll want worse. This is a destructive spiral in my experience, i dont know where it ends but i have met subs that rode it too far and got off at a bad place.

So if your playing with two subs because thats something you all want to try out well go ahead.
If your doing it for yourself or for one of them as an ultimate fantasy. Bail out before you crash and burn.

[TheSeeker]

unfortunately this has become a moot point for me, one of the subs I desired has told me we are not compatible
don't laugh but I am feeling a lot of pain at her loss

[FirstBorn]

Well sad as that may be. I think theres a lesson to be learned..

That is you got yourself in a mess with two subs at once because you didnt think it true. Now in the clarity of hindsight you get to consider if thats a route you want to go again and what you did wrong the frst time.

For me, multiple subs is more work than i care for and really my game is more about discovering one sub's mind in depth, than getting my rocks off.

[Archeon]

Well sad as that may be. I think theres a lesson to be learned..

That is you got yourself in a mess with two subs at once because you didnt think it true. Now in the clarity of hindsight you get to consider if thats a route you want to go again and what you did wrong the frst time.

For me, multiple subs is more work than i care for and really my game is more about discovering one sub's mind in depth, than getting my rocks off.

Perhaps a bit unfair to assume the incompatibility was over the poly thing, as opposed to something else.

[FirstBorn]

Perhaps a bit unfair to assume the incompatibility was over the poly thing, as opposed to something else.

well he did himself start a thread on the issue. Now that doesnt say thats the problem, but obviusly it did put some strain on the whole thing or it wouldnt have concernded OP. Seeing that hes thanking you, im guessing other issues caused it but thats no reason not to take whatever lesson to heart.