First off let me say very good post TLW.

Let me expand on something by commenting on the phenomenon of chat here. A lot of subs (especially owned subs!) like to show off how much more dominant their dom is, by being bratty and rude to other doms then going afterwards "ha, he couldn't control me in chat, he is so weak".

The problem with this, is that most of us have very little time and patience for this game. First off, IT IS CHAT, it is not real life, I am not going to "cyber punish" you, quite frankly the idea is ludicrous. Secondly, I am not going to punish someone elses sub, in public or private, I will simply talk with their dom later on, and if they think that makes me look weak, so be it.

Personally very early on in my relationship with any submissive, I make a very clear point that everything they say, might as well have come from my mouth. Seeing as how I am quite capable of getting into trouble on my own, I expect anyone talking on my behalf to try and stay out of it, treat everyone else with respect, and know where their boundaries lie when dealing with others, especially other doms(something blue does exceptionally well I feel!)

A lot of the problems occur when the relationship is more focused on the play side of things, this mentality of actually the dom being responsible for the sub doesn't exist, so the sub is essentially free to do what ever he or she wants when dealing with other people. Is this an excuse for basic manors and civility to be forgotten, certainly not.

Regards,

Arch