Ian,
Thank you for responding. Let me start with I will never forget what he did and it has taken years, years for forgiveness. This forgviness I have gotten from counseling and my Lord Jesus Christ and trust me when I say I have waived, dear Lord how I have waived with my faith. I found out that his father abused a cousin. I have done research and it is a sad fact that many times, not all, the abused will become the abuser. I am sure he was abused and the vicious cycle continued and he himself was a victim. Yes, he had a choice, but he choose the wrong one and/or his mother did not do what she should have done and left!

You could not believe the details I have left out of this...in the years since.. what he did...but suffice it to say he cont. on with his mental abuse. I eventually became a stronger woman and I am once again the woman I admired.