Definitely correct, fetish, regarding the respect half of that statement. Probably on the love side of the equation too. First and second loves are rarely lasting, being more a product of hormones and lust.

And far too many married partners take their spouses for granted. Of course it's your job to clean or cook. Of course it's your job to mow the lawn or take out the garbage. And that's probably true from both sides of each of those and many other statements.

How many people actually say thank-you, and mean it every time, when their partner does some chore, cooks a meal, or even takes the time to look especially nice for you.