Quote Originally Posted by kosher View Post
well it is more the couple weeks i guess that wasnt completely accurate... and he didnt lie about her he just failed to mention her... yes i know it sounds like im an idot. right now im more concerned about her then him anyways sooo i wouldnt even dream of a poly family because it wouldnt be for the right reasons at all and i would never be happy... i guess my real issue is making him stop with out him thinking i did it because of her because i know he will assume it was her fault...
Ok -

1: he "failed to mention" his existing slave. That is a lie by omission. It demonstrates a lack of trustworthiness.
2: he is ignoring her wishes on poly. He doesn't see to give a toss about her emotional welfare, does he.
3: he is ignoring your wishes on poly. Ditto about your emotional welfare.

I'd say he's just demonstrated conclusively that he can't be trusted. He lied (and continues to lie) to you both. He ignores your concerns and limits for his own fantasies.

I'd say - run, don't walk, to the nearest exit if you want to avoid some serious unhappiness. You can't trust him on this. What makes you think you'll ever trust him fully after this on anything dealing with your emotions?