Its not all a bed of roses they say.

Well they are right. it takes a lot of hard work somtimes, it can be very frustrating.

Everyone has their ups and downs. Comunication is very much paramont in maintaining an open diologe with your partner so both of you know and understand each other and can be supportive. Easier said than done I know.

Comitment and resposibility to each other are not easy things to come by all the time.

Personally when I can tell that my Owner is going through a rough patch I go to him on my knees when there are no outside distractions and just tell him how much I love and support him.

Sometimes its all I can do ya know.

I think that things are best when both partners demonstrate a willingness to put their partners needs before their own, vanillia/ bdsm or otherwise.

I shall pray that yopu both find what it takes to perservere through the bad times.