Hello there, and welcome to this fantastic forum. i have been reading what Others have said in response to you and echo rosie's words, it seems that you have got some good advice already. As my Beloved Master said earlier, i have a vanilla partner and for him the whole thought of causing me pain is not ok. But we are in a unique position of when we met my v.boy knew that i was a lifestyle girl. He explored it with me for about a year, with no success. i felt like i did not want to make him into something he was not, just as in the same way i could not deny my needs as a submissive. So after a lot of discussion he and i went searching for a Master for me. Myrddin became that Master/Owner, and my v.boy is happy, i am happy and most of the time my Master is happy lolol.

This works for us, only because my boy is comfortable, and everything is in the open between us. He recognised that this was one area that he could not fulfill me, and so out of sheer love for me and full security in my love for him he thinks that it is fantastic that i have Master. There has been one ........'problem' out of this though lol, my boy decided that he wanted to send a gift to Master lol, so he spanked me soundly, took photos to show the results and had me send them to Master as a present from him lol
*morwyn rubs bottom and whispers "damn, boy knows how to spank" teehee)

So each of us find our own way of what works for us in this lifestyle, and i wish you every success in finding your path. Know that what works for others may not necessarily work for you.

Be well, enjoy the journey, and should you wish for others to speak to please feel free to message anytime.

morwyn of Myrddin