I agree with Oz. Having the ability to be able to embrace your submissiveness is, paradoxically, liberating and empowering,

In vanilla life, I work as a lawyer which is the polar opposite to my submissive desires! Being able to embrace my true, submissive self is more empowering than anything else to me. Perhaps it is because secretly, I am getting what I want, which is to be my Dom's toy...?

Food for thought!

My advice would just be to embrace who you are- what could be more powerful than that? :-)