Quote Originally Posted by Miner View Post
One point you missed, I think (didn't notice it when reading through the OP and replies): if, for any reason, the dominant/top you're meeting feels that a safety net is unimportant, or objects to you setting up safe calls, meeting in a public place, providing information etc., then do NOT go ahead with the meeting.
Damn. This must be why no one is willing to meet me. I don't think that safety is unimportant, but I do think that we get rather carried away at times. We over inflate the danger of the rare catastrophic event (airplane crashes anyone?) and we get seduced by the false idea of the flawless safety plan. The only perfect precaution is to never meet anyone, which is what a lot of these safety plans effectively result in. All life involves risk. You have to decide for yourself what your own risk tolerance is.

Also, I heartily recommend that you have the dominant provide a CRB (criminal records check), copy of drivers licence and a blank sheet of paper. Have the dominant/top press his/her hand on the paper, you flip it and get a hand print on the other side of the paper. Fold it and put it, together with several hairs you pluck from the dominant/top into an envelope with the CRB and drivers licence copy and post it to your safe call person yourself. If anything happens to you, that info will be vital.

Don't let the dominant know your licence plate either.

Yes. I know. It sounds very untrusting, but as the OP mentions, you're on a blind date with someone who wants to hurt you. Safety is paramount until you know the other person is trustworthy.

As a dominant, that is precisely how I always managed my first meetings. In addition, the first meeting was always on the girl's home turf, not mine.
Case in point. If someone wanted to put me through that, I would go find someone else because that's too invasive of my privacy. You know, it doth occur to me that if you feel that unsure about the other person that you think that all this is necessary, then perhaps you shouldn't be meeting this person at all.