Safety-nets for 1st meetings

[epiphany]

One point you missed, I think (didn't notice it when reading through the OP and replies): if, for any reason, the dominant/top you're meeting feels that a safety net is unimportant, or objects to you setting up safe calls, meeting in a public place, providing information etc., then do NOT go ahead with the meeting.

Also, I heartily recommend that you have the dominant provide a CRB (criminal records check), copy of drivers licence and a blank sheet of paper. Have the dominant/top press his/her hand on the paper, you flip it and get a hand print on the other side of the paper. Fold it and put it, together with several hairs you pluck from the dominant/top into an envelope with the CRB and drivers licence copy and post it to your safe call person yourself. If anything happens to you, that info will be vital.

Don't let the dominant know your licence plate either.

Yes. I know. It sounds very untrusting, but as the OP mentions, you're on a blind date with someone who wants to hurt you. Safety is paramount until you know the other person is trustworthy.

As a dominant, that is precisely how I always managed my first meetings. In addition, the first meeting was always on the girl's home turf, not mine.

IMHO….This is a bit much….You have two consenting adults. Hopefully they have applied their cognitive abilities and are not thinking of sexual gratification only but of their safety. When applying LaMarrKees list and following common sense you will not have the detriment of invading someone’s privacy to that extent.

[Hamishlacastle]

Hi I have been slowly looking for a new sub. I am concerned that she not only feel safe but know she is safe. what to do, you both fill out a contract of what will not be allowed and what will be allowed. includig safe words. You exchange docu ments photos, id licence etc. and place them in a private safety box of your own. the contract will be in there with the other persons docutments.
I love the outdoors, always carry a GPS incase of emergency. The key is to get to know your dom or sub before meeting. The last thing I want in a sub is someone who is not connected to me. A sub and I should feel a connection. In other words you like the person. go with your gut.