I honestly think I was born a Dom, just as a gay male is born gay.It is who I am. To turn it off would be like a gay male not admitting and staying in the closet. I also think because society sees a dominant male as natural, and a submissive female as unnatural , that it is easier for a dominant male as he doesn't have to hide the fact of his dominance it is seen as a strength by society. A submissive woman is seen as weak by society.. If being a dominant male is seen this way, then I never understood why society doesn't see a submissive female the same.. do they expect a dominant male to seek out a dominant female....I thought opposites attract...at least that's what I always found to be true ....