I think the same could be said for any sort of kink...why use a flogger? why nipple clamps, why water sports, etc......

Master is very interested in swinging and it's something i have participated in with Him. To a lesser extent, Master has also allowed a couple of people to use me online. There are many reasons people do what they do, but usually it is because they like it! Master very much enjoys watching me with others (men and women) and i really enjoy watching Him with other women, also. It is similar to why Master enjoys hurting me and i enjoy being hurt by Him. W/we both get off on it. *grins*

As far as if i get asked about it, etc. Master and i discussed this at length before i accepted His collar. I was nervous about it because it wasn't something i had really done before, but He let me know that it would be expected of me if i were to be His. As you can see, my nerves didn't get the best of me. So far, Master and i have talked about potential couples, or other dom's using me, etc. He allows me to speak freely about what i like or find attractive as He wants it to be enjoyable for me as well.

Part of it for me, is watching Him being pleasured by another woman. Seeing the look on His face and knowing that i am the one He choses to go home with. I watch Him and He watches me with the other people. i get turned on just like i do when i watch porn or something, but even more so because it is Him. i guess i just like to watch Him work. *giggles*

i do not think that sharing is for everyone, though. i think people need to be very secure in their relationship and realize that it's not that you aren't enough to satisfy your partner, but that it's just a completely different feeling. Also communication is the key, talk about things, process them the way you would after any scene. Get out any frustrations, laugh, cry, etc. Things will not always go to plan (crazy blonde comes to mind) so it's best to talk about these things right after and not let them stew and get worse. I also feel that if you tend to be the jealous type, this is not for you either. These were just some of my original reservations to sharing or being shared, but now that i have done it..i'm way on board!

i know this wasn't from a dom's point of view, but perhaps Master will chime in and share His thoughts on the matter as well.


bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon