I experimented with tying up my now exhusband, I didnt realize that it was considered bdsm, just thought of it as fun.

My first knowing act of bdsm was cyber Domming, or play , he was a sub who was made to kiss my boots and I rode him around like a pony, smacking him with my crop.

My first act as a sub, putting a clothes peg on my tongue for 5 minutes, wow that hurt.