i don't think you are wrong to want that at all. my Master and i have that. W/we have a rich and full relationship that incorporates all of who W/we both are. W/we talk, laugh, go for hikes and all the things a relationship should be. i submit to Him deeply, not because i am broken but because of who He is to me. W/we are lucky to have eachother as W/we seemingly bring out the best in each other in both M/s and vanilla ways. Good luck i hope you find her soon