How to start?

[denuseri]

Dear Invisible

Your main way of safely getting involved in the bdsm community is through obtaining wisdom and self disipline.

Don't let your passion overrule your reason when it comes to being safe first and kinky second.

This may sound cynical but bears being said:

Be ultra careful with your personal information online, or otherwise, once its out there its out there and there is no getting it back. More than one girl has found pictures of herself plastered all over pay porn sites by the so called online love of her life. Others have had worse things happen.

Dont get me wrong. I see nothing wrong with long distance relationships eventually developing and or progresing to real life one day if one wishes or having a relationship that stays exclussively online, or exploring ones self and one's submission using the internet as a medium for experiening bdsm. Its perfectly ok to have online only aquaintances and even to mimic some aspects of r/l bdsm relationships if one chooses to do so within those paramaters.

But; I do cuation against some things....I don't reccomend anyone (especially someone new to bdsm) hooking up with any one person (who they cannot really ever know from online alone) that calls themselves a dom and submitting to their authority and theirs alone as one who is "collared" in a real life Master/slave relationship.

I am not saying one can't have a good time, or engadge safely in cybersex and online domination. I am just recomending one use some caution and be realistic. It is simply not safe to surrender some levels of control to those one can not really know.

Some things imho to avoid during online relationships are persons that want to hold one to restrictions conserning one's ability to access information or attempt to control who they can and can not speak too online, when one can or cannot be online, demands pictures or web cam, wants password information, things mailed to them, phone numbers, or information revealing ones work schedule or real life address/location, etc etc. Once stalked twice shy.

Real trust is only earned with real deeds.

In other words, one shouldn't abandon one's common sence just becuase they logged on to a computer.

I pray that your journey will be a long and fruitful one and that you will safely have fun upon it.

Hugs and kissess

denuseri