this has probably been asked a thousand times but...

[bluefarie]

i know this may sound redundant, but i would really suggest meeting this person in a neutral place before just going back to his house. Go to a coffee house, out for dinner, etc...a typical vanilla date sort of thing, just to feel things out. I know that may not be exactly what you had planned, but it's a sure way to get to know a person and if things go well, then who's to say you may very well end up back at his place.

I have done online dating before, all vanilla men, btw, and well this was just the safest way to do it. Also, if you are going to be traveling and need to stay over night some place, seriously book a hotel and maybe have him meet you back there after the coffee, dinner, whatever.

it is just a much safer way to meet a new person. Yes the jitters are to be expected, but that does not excuse you doing something stupid. i have heard so many horror stories and narrow escapes and you don't want to become one of them. Just throwing my two cents in here, but i hope all goes well. The safe calls are a great back up plan too, just to have someone call you at set times or you call and check in at set times, etc.

i know someone who used something about taking medicine for safety codes, something like "yes i took all of my medicine" meant get me the heck out of here now! Anyways, i hope this helps and good luck on your journey!


bluefarie, very happily owned by Master Archeon

[dirtylittlebitchx]

no, not redundant at all
and i asked if we could meet at a restaurant or somewhere public first since i've done the vanilla online dating as well and that has worked out pretty well.

he lives a little over an hour from where i live so it's not that far of a distance if i needed to drive home and my best friend is making me call her throughout the night just so she knows im alive.lol