You think you're the only one with secrets... but you're not.

Have your parents announced their intention to copulate... or told you they just finished, when they go off to their room? Share positions? Share details? Do you know for a fact they don't use prophylactics? Is your dad using viagra or cialis or does he still get it up himself? Does he mention when he's horny? If not with you, maybe they share this with the neighbors? No?

My point is... why do we as kinksters, presume we have to reveal our kinks to our vanilla friends? They don't share their intimate details with each other nor is it expected, and except amongst (some) of the very closest friends, they don't even acknowledge it.

No one of us need "out" themselves to their friends or family. Just our immediate partner(s).

And to Iseabail, if you were 100% vanilla, you'd have the very same problem with regard to masturbating in your room or having a vibrator in your sock drawer.

It has nothing to do with being kinky. It's all about parents and their children.