Quote Originally Posted by Iseabail View Post
First off: Thank you all for the advice, but I believe I made a faux pas somewhere along the way and made it seem like I was going to tell my family and friends. Which I am not going to, I do not know if I ever could. I apologize for the confusion.

I simply wanted to hear the stories and experiences of those around me. A chance to learn about another aspect of BDSM. That line where people have to toe between BDSM and their Vanilla lives.

I am sorry for the confusion, I should have made that clear in the intial post.

Ozme52: Everyone has secrets. That is so very true. Whether it be who took the last cookie out of the cookie jar or who killed Kenny. But I was wondering who do people manage their secrets? Your secrets? Anyone's secrets?

I just wanted to hear everyone's stories. And if all of this makes me seem like a brat, once again I apologize, that is most definitely not my intention.

And, I probably just made another mistake in posting this, but still, I felt the need to make myself clear, since I screwed up somewhere along the way.

Reading that over, it slightly sounds sarcastic, but it is not. I promise. Lol.

Thanks, everyone, for your advice, and replies! More are most certainly weclome. Please, keep them coming.
It's easy to lose the tone of a written comment, especially on the net it seems, where we tend to write and post, rather than write, edit, rewrite, rewrite again, and only then, publish.

I took none of what you wrote as being in any sense bratty. It seemed a sincere question and concern... and my empahsis was not on your attitude, but your perception (as I saw it) that the secrets were unique.

In fact... if anything, I was trying to be supportive. I once has a submissive whom I lost because of a self-induced frenzy to tell her family she was kinky... as if she were keeping dark secrets from them... despite the fact she knew nothing about their, (parents, sisters, cousins,) sex lives.

My intent was to tell you to not sweat it, and not feel that you had to share your predilictions with your family... because, imo, if you were 100% vanilla, you wouldn't either.