this has probably been asked a thousand times but...

[dirtylittlebitchx]

I need to find a Dom like that, you're so lucky.

[sera]

I need to find a Dom like that, you're so lucky.

Thanks, I do feel lucky, but I also took my time, did a lot of chatting, met several for coffee or lunch, and did a lot of reading here so I'd know what to look for and how to stay safe. The members here, and posts left by those long gone, are a wealth of information and guidance.

Because of my situation, I wasn't comfortable heading out to munches in my local community, but as Oz mentioned, others have found them to be a great resource. Being able verify a Dom's reputation would be a great perk just on it's own, but you might find some fun new friends too.

[bluefarie]

I fell into this trap, at first, of ok i am sub, he is a dom, we like some of the same kinky things, this should work, right? Uhm..chances are no, it probably won't. The reason for this being that just like any other, this is a relationship and other things need to be known. Even if a dom and sub are compatible in a bdsm sense, they may not be in other aspects of life and that is very important to know if you want a relationship with a person.

i am a 24/7 slave, but Master knows my favorite foods and favorite color because He took the time to get to know me to make sure W/we would be compatible for life, not just in bdsm, but many other aspects too.

i think we all get caught up in the newness and excitement of a first time thing, but i am only saying this because this was a mistake i made. Luckily, my first dom was very nice and nothing bad happened, but other than both being kinky, we really had nothing else in common and then i found out, our kinks didn't even match up! Talk about big mistake. lol Anyways, take your time, get to know a person as a person, that means the whole package!

Good luck and happy hunting.

bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon