I completely agree with leah. Very well put leah. I know I really don't have any real true insight on the matter however I will say before you do anything Guin, make sure nothing of the like will happen again. It sounds like you have had a bit of a pattern and if you out yourself to your "loving Dom" and then repeat these actions it wont be good.
Only you know what's best so as everyone else, I wish you luck and happiness.