Questions of a (complete) Newb

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How did you discover what parts of BDSM you were into, and what parts you didn't like?

It started with my husband wanting to explore his bisexual side without inviting a guy into our relationship(so I bought my first strap-on). I had no idea what I was doing so I went to literotica.com and found a TON of things that I was interested in trying both as a slave and a Dom.

If you are limited in terms of freedom (can't order stuff, and no one else to do stuff with) how can you experiment safely?

You could try to find an online Dom initially. There are lots of things you can experiment with initially and than eventually either meet them in person or meet a new Dom in person.

What sort of protocols can I expect to find in the BDSM community? On this site in particular?

It epends on the Dom/slave. Some Dom's don't want others talking to their pet. Some Dom's want to be asked before assuming they'll talk to you. "I am a humble slave who wants to ask you some questions if you wouldn't mind Mistress/Master?" Something along the lines of that.

What would you say is the best way to get to know people on this site? I like to get into a community, not just be an object on the other side of a computer screen.

Read the posts. I've learned alot by just reading updates regularly. Going to the Chatroom is fun. It's kinda embarassing to just jump in there the first few times you go, just remember to ask before you private message anyone. Comment on people's posts. Ask questions. Put an ad up for a Dom. You never know what will come out of it.