Thanks for the comments denu,
The test for the dominant is to watch the person he loves endure this in his name, to watch them suffer. This is not an easy task in itself.
In terms of writing from the online prospective, at the time blue went through this, we were separated and interacting online, however the principle would remain the same if you lived together, or apart but it was a r/l only relationship.
Regards,
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