I will say this--cookie-cutter methods rarely work for anyone. What works for one, almost never works for another. While this may be Archeon's Key To a Successful Slave Girl, I wager most others wouldn't find this terribly useful to mold their girl/boy/person in real life. Why? Because each relationship is so very different, and everyone lives under different circumstances. Although for Archeon, for instance, he may have the luxury of having his girl for a week, all alone, in quarters in which he can conduct such an exercise, not everyone has such circumstances. Many people have jobs, or have children, or simply do not have circumstances in which they can drop everything for a week to focus on BDSM.

I think it's important for everyone to realize that "training a slave" is not actually rocket science. It starts by creating a relationship with a submissive, and then slowly, over time, molding that relationship into something deeper, creating a connection with her/him/person that enables you to move your relationship to a different level. It's important to create both the vanilla and the BDSM connection, because trust spans throughout the relationship, and only through trust can a relationship progress.

And only THEN, after a deep trust is built, through good communication, effort, and TIME, a truly deep relationship connection will be built.

I really hesitate to shove labels down peoples' throats, because I think that people get too attached to labels, when instead, it's so much more important to think about the molding process: you are taking 2 people from different places & molding them into one. The process & journey is 90% of the fun & learning. Shortcuts & "how-to's" are simply just never as good as figuring it out on your own. Besides-- molding to eachother is always better than molding to a cookie-cutter.

On a seperate note. It is VERY VERY VERY critical to add a few safety notes: degradation & humiliation kinks are extremely mentally & emotionally taxing on the submissive (and sometimes the dominant) and often have undesired & unrecognized & unplanned side effects. They really should only be undertaken after a substantial period of time has elapsed in the relationship wherein trust has been built and the dominant is able to ensure that the submissive is safe 100% of the time--by watching triggers, reactions, etc in real life. All too often, people "play loose" with these kinks because they think it's "fun" --but these are usually the kinks that give BDSM a bad rap, and often leave relationships in ashes & submissives in emotional shambles... so please, exercise with caution. NOT that they can't be used, but... discretion is the better part of valor.


As always, my opinion is but another to add to the sea...